Mostly Ranting about Dating, Part 2

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So a couple of days ago I ranted about dating girls versus dating boys, and like a mess of other things and the reason that I mentioned it was because I thought mayyyybe one of my coworkers was maybe attempting to set me up with her daughter. I still wasn’t sure what was happening yesterday and I asked one of my other coworkers if he knew if the lady who had mentioned her daughter had anyone in her family who was queer. He said that he didn’t think so. He said that said coworker was pretty conservative Christian though her daughters had gotten her to lighten up a little on that front. My friend Emily said she thought the lady was (and I quote) “just being a mom.” 

I honestly felt a little disappointed? I mean the daughter sounded fun and as much as I don’t want to do the whole “single and ready to mingle”/online dating profile/etc. thing, I do eventually want to meet someone special. 

So I got back to work after lunch where I had said conversations with dude coworker (who may or may not be flirting with me? Also not sure on this?? God, for someone who is usually pretty good at reading people, I am shit at reading people’s interest in me) and my friend Emily and ran into lady coworker who has said geeky daughter. I hadn’t seen her the rest of the day and I gave some sort of greeting and she was like “Oh Kate, I gave my daughter your number” and some other stuff about her looking for missing ornaments for her tree and that she might reach out to me. 

And I’m thinking yeah, okay her mom could just be “being a mom” or whatever but this really feels like a maybe set up? Which of course I tell my friend and so then we’re trying to figure it out and get all of no where. 

Still, it doesn’t matter either way if she doesn’t call or text me. 

GUESS WHAT SHE TEXTED ME LAST NIGHT.

We’ve texted A LOT over the last 27 hours or so and it’s been really, really fun. So I started thinking, okay at least I know we have a lot in common and we can probably be friends. 

Of course I’m still trying to figure out if she’s queer. It doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll be interested in me that way, but I mean, I want to know if I at least won’t be rejected based on gender. 

Quick side note: I recognize that most of the world can say that they only feel attraction to people of one, specific, gender. But for real, that seems fucking crrraazzzzyyy to me. How anyone can be like “I’m not attracted to anyone in that gender” is LOST on me. I mean, look at some of the people out there. No exceptions? Not ever? Frankly? Does.not.compute. Asexuality I get. Straight up not really being into the whole sex thing or only being into the sex thing under specific circumstances or if you have a certain level of emotional investment, I totally get. But just like “no, that person has a penis, I’m automatically not interested”... well, okay cis-men on a whole are kind of awful so maybe that’s sort of understandable. Even then though, I would get the “I don’t date men” but I don’t think I’d get the “not attracted” to them. Anyway, I know it’s a real thing that people are like “totally straight” or “completely gay,” but it just doesn’t make sense to me. 

… I need to go to bed. I have work in the morning. Ugh. 

Anyway, back to my story. 

She and I are texting about stuff and I won’t give the entire run down but she mentioned that she had recently broken up with someone who she also works with at her part time job and that they’d been friends for a long time before they started dating and so they’re trying to work out being friends and coworkers again. Now, this part time job (she’s a technology teacher full time) is at a Hallmark store. I realize that it’s sexist to say that straight men don’t work in Hallmark stores so I won’t say that but I will say that I have literally never seen a man working in a Hallmark Store. So I press and I keep my pronouns neutral because thus far she’d been very careful not to have to use any pronouns (only words like “friend” and “coworker” which are totally gender neutral). I told her she didn’t have to talk about it but she did. And her ex is a woman!! And she explained that she feels the way I feel about attraction and gender and it was AMAZING. 

We’ve been texting furiously about Harry Potter and our dislike of weird food textures and Christmas ornaments and just fun stuff. 

Tomorrow she’s going to make breakfast for dinner and we’re going to work on a puzzle and maybe watch a movie and I’m just really freaking excited. 

Now I really, really need to go to bed so I can shower in the morning and wear something cute tomorrow. Night y’all!